I havent been writing here for a long time…. too long time, but I had to have a look at my goals, and prioritize my workload! I spent way too many hours on my professional work, I bought another domain www.4timersarbejdsuge.dk (a Danish 4hour work week forum). And spent alot of time setting that one up, then I had kasperlife.com where I also had to redefine some issues, as I think it can easily get a bit confusing. I was going out on social experimenting 2 times a week with my friend Thomas, Training Boxing 3 times a week, training Australian Rules Football 2 times a week, and playing a game once a week, going out for drinks or eating with my girl a couple of times a week (which was way too little so we just broke up! :(). So, as you see I just did not have the time as I was also fixing my jobsite www.rankajob.com and doing work on my friends facebook dating site www.facebookdater.com! Wow, that looks crazy when I put it into writing :D! So… just to make it even more loony, I chose to start a coaching course with coachcamp.dk which I will be starting on in medio May!

Ok… so I have to cut it down a bit! Prioritize, and so on! I have quite a bit of work to do, as I have a deal with Coachcamp! I have to get this guy indexed on some danish keywords for getting a rebate…if not Ill have to pay the full prize of the course which is around 10.000 USD!

So, that is why Iam not writing a lot of articles on KasperLife at the moment!

OK… need to go back to work

I have spent the last couple of days wondering how i can prioritize my goals… as I mentioned in my earlier articles, I feel that I have too many goals, and need to prioritize them! I went to Stockholm this weekend, and had a wonderful time with a good friend of mine.. Just to relax and defragment my mind! We ate at fancy restaurants, and had cool drinks at nice cocktail lounges at SturePlan in central Stockholm! The weather was beautiful and we really got to chill out. But in the back of my mind I felt the stress caused by the “too many goals issue”. On the way back, I was browsing through an FHM magazine… I do not particularly like those kinds of magazines, as they are all pictures and no text… nothing that can actually inspire you except from cars you cannot afford, and cool watches! What they did have though, was a “HOT or NOT” scheme about fashion or tv series or whatever! even though I did not pay attention to what it was about, I noticed that this scheme was what I needed! I am going to make a “HOT OR NOT” of my goals… Ill just put in some other factors, namely URGENCY and IMPORTANCE!

When I have my goals visualized it is much easier to control them! If the goal is not that important but urgent, I will see if I can get it done fast, if it is important but not urgent, it can wait a little… every week the schedule will move one click to the left, and all the goals will get a bit more urgent! If you think this is interesting I have made an Excel ready for you to download here: PRIORITIZE GOALS Just download it and plot in your goals… it will help you get a better vision of your goals, and how you prioritize!

My next step is to make a PAL list inspired by the sales departments of large companies. A PAL is short for Potential Accounts List! The list is made up by large and interesting accounts that the company would want/like as clients. This helps me in ONE major area… Because a PAL can only have a certain number of accounts! So, if they put in a new account, another one has to go. So, Iam going to use this for my goals. I will make a list of all the goals I would want to acchieve! But only 10 can make it at the time to my  PGL = Priority Goal List! When one is acchieved, a new one can enter from my goal list… if I would want to put another goal on my PGL, another one has to go! This way my PGL is always high priority goals!

Let me know if you can use these tools, and if you think there is anything we can change a bit, to optimize it!

/Kas

CRISIS!!!! What can I do?

I have reached a bit of a crisis in my personal development journey. Yesterday I had a long talk with my wing man on this journey, and had the idea that I might be trying to reach too many goals at one time! Currently I have goals within Personal Finances, which are going ok, Social Dynamics, which are kind of stagnated, Time Management which I am not really following up on 100%, sports, which is going really well (I was awarded “best on ground” at my first Aussie rules football match this year, last saturday) and on top of that I am constantly finding other areas that I would like to improve on! I know from earlier that it is an issue that I am not focused on a few things at the time! It really gives me a head ache thinking about these things all the time, and I think I need to rethink the whole thing… take a break, and defragment my mind a little. My motivation has suddently plummeted. And this is the wrong time of year for this…. summer is comming, I should be totally motivated and focused.

One of the biggest issues is actually TIME… I dont feel that i have time for my friends at the moment! I train boxing monday, wednesday and friday, football tuesday and thursday, match saturday, social experiments/ dynamics wednesday and friday, I need to see my family more often, hang out with my friends, go to work, work on facebookdater and rankajob (my two new private projects) and…. STOP!!!

I dont have a clue what to do other than sit down and REALLY go through my goals! So, Iam going to go to Stockholm for the weekend and relax a bit… do nothing, eat out, sleep in and so on for three days. Then I want to find just a few goals that I want to follow up on and stay focused on those, till I reached my goals.

Yesterday I went to the Depak Chopra speech in Copenhagen! I never heard about him before, I must admit! But my friend Thomas was inviting, so I had to go…. And it blew my mind! Even though this stuff might be a bit technical. Especially when he started explaining that we are the universe and the universe is in us… I was already getting in my defence state! Crossed arms, and mimicking a 5 year old! But then something caught my attention…. This guy could actually explain those things, and not only explain it, he almost managed to keep me awake for 3 hours… but that is another thing… it actually surprised me that he was not just any “new” Motivational Guru, with an “emperors new clothes” theory. He took some of the theories from his buddhist background and matched them up with western civilizations/ christianity’s morales. Further to that when we really got into things (of course some of it got too “hippieyaya”!) he took some buddhist sayings and compared them to sayings of Jesus! (I am an atheist, but always found religion interesting).

But that was not my HUGE EYEOPENER! That was actually in the end of his speech, when he was talking about 15 values, a person should or could have (sorry, Im not sure what he actually said here, but he probably did not say that we should have those ;)!) I heard versions of that before somewhere! But where? Then it struck me… It is ancient coaching/nlp/motivational stuff…. WOW… I loved it… got out my notebook, and got to write down a few of them.. hopefully we can have a fruitful discussion of those. Here they are (the ones i got!):

You and I evoke the Universe by looking at it!

Conciousness is found in the space between thoughts (I made that one up… think it is catchy… I might try and sell it to Eckhart Tolle ;))

“Socially Programmed hallucinations”

That person or thing is in me as I am in it!

Yoga (Yoke) means connecting to the source (did not know that there was a word “yoke” for that same thing in english!)

All fulfillment comes from within - Ask and you shall find (Jesus) which is connected to modern coaching where you “ask the right questions (in the positive) and you will get the right (positive) answers! - Fundamental questions gives fundamental answers!

Seperate self

“To get rid of the ego is the ultimate melodrama of the ego” I love this one… had the discussion last saturday when I was at the goal setting and managing course! Some girls were discussing this, and I thought it was bullsh*t! You cannot give up your ego, 100%!

What you can do in relation to your ego is the following: Just watch what is happening an then watch the observer’s reaction…. and dont judge!

highest level of intelligence is observing your self with our judging!

The world is a mirror of the self (smile to the world and the world smiles back)  We do not like people with traits that we deny our selves!

try as a test to identify traits of people you do not like and see if you can recognise them in your self… maybe ask some people that are close to you! Then if they are in you, try to accept those traits!

Resist no Evil - We heard that one before, but in buddhism there is no good, without evil… everybody has a shadow, unless they are standing in the dark! Yin Yang… Evil is not Evil!

Death makes life possible! - Every day you die…. and comes back in a different and better version! Your skin regenerates every month! A cancercell is a healthy cell that forgot how to die! So, Let the past die! Find out what you need to let die in you, to come back in a better version! Death is a creative process!

We are the universe - the light from the universe shines on a plant which transforms the energy into leaves which we eat, which makes us grow… thereby we are the universe and the univers is in us! We are a tree, without us the tree would not breathe (carbondioxide) and we would not breathe without the tree (Oxygen).

the only time is NOW!

the above is only my keywords from the Depak Chopra speech.. I will have them as discussions in future posts, where I hope to get in depth with those!

Namaste

Kasper

I have been looking around on a lot of forums for new bloggers, and it seems there are alot of new bloggers that get stuck because they dont get any readers or traffic to the blog. Therefore Ill write you my personal favorite tips for getting more traffic to your blog. I dont want to get all SEO consultant on you guys, I just want to get you to have a better understanding of what happens with the search engines. Oh, I should say that right away… I depend mostly on Search engines for my traffic (Google only actually).

Three Simple Steps To more Blog Traffic

First Optimisation Step: Benchmarking

Get a counter on your site… This is your benchmarking tool, primarely. But further to that, a good counter like googles "Analytics" will also provide you with a lot of great info on who your visitors are, and what really works on your site, and what does not! So, I have used motigo, which is really good if you want real time stats, as well as google urls on the specific search someone did to find your site. The bad thing about Motigo, is that everybody can see your stats. If you dont want that, stay with analytics. And yes, then there is analytics, which I would definately recommend. With Wordpress blogs, you can find a plug in where you only have to put in your analytics code, and then you are on your way. probably there is an easy solution to Blogspot as well, even though I dont know that one really well.

Second Optimization Step: Relevance!

Write Great Content… Google bots are living off eating your content. If you dont have content, the bot will starve, and wont visit your site much. Neither will your visitors! The more articles and posts on your blog, the more different things your site will be relevant towards. VERY basically, Google decides your position from two things; relevance and popularity! With a lot of content, your site will be relevant to alot of different things.

Third Optimisation Step: Popularity!

If you want to be able to see how popular google finds your site, get a google toolbar with PageRank button. There is a lot of discussion between SEO people about the relevance of PageRank, but I personally think that all SEO guys dont really know, and just wants to open their mouths about something… My opinion about PageRank is… It is better than nothing! PageRank is updated every 3rd or 4th month, and is therefore not always the best current picture of how popular your site is. Even though it says your PageRank is 0 it might actually be 4! Ok, no more babbling about PageRank. We are basically talking about Popularity. The more popular your site is the bigger is your chance to get a proper ranking on google. So, two sites with the same relevance for Personal Development, but one has much higher popularity, that with the highest popularity will get the best ranking (also known as SERPs to seo folk). Ok, so how does Google determine how popular your site is? Easy, it looks at how many other sites link to yours… the more popular the other sites are, the more their meaning weigh! So, after getting your Counter, and starting writing great content (relevance), you got to start getting links (popularity). Start by asking your friends, then maybe list your site at some directories (not the best solution anymore) and start up like that… get the snowball rolling. The more visitors you get, the bigger chance people will start linking to your site.

One easy way to get a link to your site:

Link to www.kasperlife.com and let me know when your link is up, and where it is… then Ill put a link to your site, from one of my blogs! voila, now you have your first ingoing link, and your blog is on its way to be the huge success you want it to be! (Link text should be "Personal Growth Blog" or "Self Help Blog").

The whole point about this article is not to get into nerdy details about optimising your website, but an easy way of getting your blogs traffic numbers up, quickly and easy. If you focus on these three steps, you will get tons of traffic really quickly.

Please comment on this article, I am really curious if it helps you!

Rgrds

Kasper

Just a quick update on what I have been doing the last couple of days! Right now Im on the couch with my duvee, relaxing! Had a really great weekend. Hung out with good friends, met some cool people, and I expect to go out and meet with a cool friend of mine in a couple of hours. But back to my Great weekend…

My friend Mats and me went boxing friday afternoon. We actually did about 10 training rounds in the ring (notice the black eye on Mats and the scatches on our faces :))… thought I was going to puke like three times. But wow, did I learn alot! After a great exercise, we went home. We had a living Lobster in the fridge, a bit net of Muscles and a bunch of Norwegian lobsters (you know, the small juicy ones). So, we uncorked a bottle of Silverlake Sauvignon Blanc and started cooking. There is nothing like cooking with friends, especially I love it when you have some really great quality raw materials to work with! Eating seafood with your fingers, having chilli, garlic, and onion all over your hands and fingers, is really sexy… too bad we did not invite any girls, but now I know what I will do when I bring a date at home for dinner in the near future for sure, cutlery is going to be out of the question

After that a few drinks, in a bar around the corner, with even more friends! Relaxed, perfect…

Yesterday, I went with the same friend to a Spa, and had a chilled afternoon. First we scrubbed our whole bodies, with salt and wood. With a bit of hangovers, we started off going to the steambath, and stretched out our sore muscles, after that frying in the sauna for a while. Then we had some food, and a beer (what is beer doing in a wellness center?) after that I went to a waterbed with heating lamps… I have no clue whatever what they where supposed to do, but I fell a sleep, and woke up half an hour later! Then a quick solarium and then home another nap, and a movie! Then off to meet my inspirational self help partner Thomas in town for a cup of coffee! Had a hard time pushing my limits on approaching people, but eventually, we really got to meet some cool people! That is what the whole exercise is about, pushing our comfort zone! It is really hard at times, but amazingly awarding. Thomas had taken some time for himself in a house on a small island, to clear his head. He was on fire yesterday. He just seemed to be able to lock in really quickly, and get some great responses from people! One of the hottest girls in the bar, was all over him, constantly touching him, whispering in his ears and all those Indicators of Interest. That is what Social Dynamics is all about. Cool Thomas, you really have grown. Hope I can get you to write about your Social Growth Journey in here!

This morning I went to eat breakfast with a friend of mine from Barcelona, who is staying at a fancy hotel near from here…. He has free breakfast, so he invited me ;)! So, I had a great weekend, and now my sister is back from her skiing vacation with her boyfriend, so hopefully I get to see her this evening, and hear about their trip! My brother in law, did some talking about going to a big car show that is on this weekend, so if we go, I think I can say that I had a weekend full of adventure, cool experiences, and plenty of relaxation!

/Kasper

Today, I want to get started on finishing my goals, and how to get there. But today Iam going to my parents place to help out my dad do his new webpage on a company he is starting up! So, I might not have a chance to get it done today, as I hope I will also have some time to get ready for work, tomorrow when the easter break is over! I would like to have my travelling goals done for 2008 tonight! I have my financial goals done, and quite a bit on how to reach those as well. It is all done, I just have to get them “online”. I am going to get my KasperLife goals put in the right chronological order this week. And last but not least, Iam going to get my 1,000 DKK (210 USD) out of the bank. The 210 USD is my weekly “Pocketmoney”. As i put in my financial goals, and how to get there, I have put away my credit card, and get 210 Dollars a week in cash as “pocketmoney”. This is my “FOOD & FUN MONEY”, and I have been doing this for 3 weeks now, and it work like a charm for me. I had a small “accident” when I went to a restaurant with a friend 2 weeks ago, and “overspent” a bit. All in all it has worked perfect though! As long as I have my current wage, I dont think my financial goals will change much, but it is important to go through your goals frequently to see if you should change them. As we constantly change (and the whole idea about this development blog is to change), our goals and objectives will also be in constant change. We do not just reach a goal and then that is that. We develop our goals along the way! That is the reason it is important to go through our goals frequently! I have to run off now, but I hope I get the time to get back soon!

Namaste

Btw.: Just thought about another goal for my blog…. It needs more pictures! So I want to have some pictures I can use on the blog

Today I was a bit hungover from yesterday! I went to a cocktail party at a friends place. He is living with his younger brother in the absolute city center, in a really nice brand new apartment. It was great fun and we had a huge range of different cocktails (it was a “bring-your-own-and-show-what-you-can-do-with-a-shaker-party”), so today has been very relaxed. This morning I went with my buddy, to a shopping mall for professionals and bought some stuff for his nightclub. Then we went to to a cafe (Bankeråt) and had some lunch… pretty boring food, but nice atmosphere though! after that we went to have a coffee at Pussy Galore, reading the newspaper, chatting with people… A pretty good day, and we where ready for the nights adventure had some awesome food, a nice bottle of wine, and then off to a friend of mines place for drinks… So today I made a new goal; I am going to cut down on the alcohol! More about how and so on under my goals!

I am sitting working on setting up my blog, and I noticed that I haven’t written any posts yet… just any daily day life posts! It is easter holidays and I am sitting in my couch, working on setting up my blog… there is a lot of work on describing who I am, why I am doing this and then the technical stuff. I am not satisfied with the layout of the site… I just took a wordpress template and tweaked it a little bit. I definately need a better header, something more catchy… But not focusing on all the work there is on making this the best blog out there, I must admit that I am really enjoying this, there is something therapeutic about writing on the subject of yourself. It is like I am facing some of the demons (just some of them ) in your life.

I actually have a little bit of a cold at the moment, and I have decided to take better care of the “vessel” (thanks; DeAngelo)

I have some great new about my financial situation (see financial goals): First of all I got some money back from the tax system (1893.3), and last week I got my money for vacations! In the company I work they pay 12% on my wages to a holiday account! So I just got 1682.94 from my old work, and i dont know how much I am going to get from my current work… I expect it to be around the same so in April, I am going to get 5259 USD. extra on my wage… this means that I have paid back my debt to my bank! only leaving one big post on my debts