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DEAR READERS
Thank you so much for your appreciated time on this blog, which is all about sharing and giving motivation for personal change in your life.
The reason why I decided to write this blog started off about a year ago today. At that time I was not planning on writing a blog, or a book, or anything in that aspect… I was depressed! I did not know at the time, that I was depressed, and many readers will propably say: “That is not depression, you should see depression when it is bad, if you think THAT is depression!”. Well… I WAS depressed…
MY LIFE ONE YEAR AGO
A year ago I returned to Denmark from Mexico. I had a company with a mexican partner, which profesionally ran pretty well, but on the personal level, not that good… to be honest (and I want to be honest in this blog 
) we were constantly fighting about anything we possibly could fight about, and basically behaving like little kids. So, I decided to go back home to Copenhagen! Christmas eve, 2006. My life in Mexico was perfect; I sorrounded myself with great friends, had a wonderfuld house, and best of all… I had a company that was actually making money! Not living an overwhelming life, but still… I was pretty proud of myself for what I acchieved up till that point. But the closer we came to christmas, the closer i came to my decision about leaving it all, as I knew that we where fighting each other too much in the company! On top of that, a headhunting company wanted to have me joining them for an interview, so I thought I was pretty safe. My new wage seemed pretty nice, and I was happy about the concept of coming “home” after 8 years away.
DENMARK
…was not that easy to get accustomed to though. The company who was headhunting me, told me that they had to hire another guy internally as they had had to lay off a lot of people, and therefore could not offer me the job. (after 3 interviews, and only one last chat with the CEO from Canada waiting). I was bummed… Feeling stupid, letting go of my company (without getting any money out of it), and basically living with my parents as a 30 year old. (Thank you mom and dad for you patience!) I got more and more frustrated and did not feel like getting a job… or… I would love to get a job, but could not oversee the challenge of actually seeking it, writing cvs and applications… so… as I had no money (could not even get support from the state, as I had worked abroad in many years) I just took a job in a wineshop. I was making shit money, worked my ass off. But in a way liked the idea that I did not have to think too much about work. It was an easy job, as I knew quite a bit about wines, but it was also a job I found a bit humiliating when talking to friends, and making new friends (as I mentioned earlier, I was away from Copenhagen for 8 years, so I had to build a new group of friends). I had a pretty big dept at the time, as I did not make that much money when I lived in Barcelona! Also, I had not paid of my loan for a Bachelors Degree in Business Management at ESERP University. So my depts was at that time about 170,000 DKK = 35,762.37 USD… at the time I was making about 11,400 DKK 2398.18 after taxes a month. With that much dept i felt i was only paying back the mortgage on the dept. I felt more and more bummed, stock in a bog i could not get out off. What the hell could I do? I was 30 years old, and now I rented a room in an appartment with 2 other guys, that I did not know… (and one of these guys where FREAKY!). Well, not much to it, but I think you guys more or less get the idea, that I was not satisfied with where life had taken me!
HOW DID THE SPARK IGNITE?
Last summer a good old friend, and a great source of inspiration, told me about a book he had read, which blew his mind! The book was called “The Game” by Neil Strauss, and I guess it is now the Bible in pick up communities. I did not feel I wanted to go and spend the money on a book, (that is how poor I felt) but a friend of mine had an audio tape version lying around. The book was as expected - Mind blowing. Not just to the fact that this little guy Neil or Style could grow from a little nerd, to a great hero and Idol of many young men. The idea in my head, that a person could grow, change, take over his own destiny… really peaked my interest. In the middle of this whole thing I actually pulled myself together, and started looking for new jobs. Within 2 weeks, I had a new job, in an Online Marketing bureau in the trendy part of Copenhagen.
HOW I LOST MY TELEVISION SET
I now spend most of my spare time looking for Self Development programmes, Pick Up Coaches and motivational speakers are a great source for getting a clue of what is out there! My problem was that I did not know of Anthonny Robbins, Brian Tracy, or any other Personal Development Guru. So, as I listened to the others, i wrote down anything I could use… a name, program, movie, what ever! Then I would search the internet, till I found a way of downloading or buying it! After a short while, I had more Coaching books, motivational cd’s, and weird movies lying around. And now the problem was not finding it, but finding the time to listen to it! So, one night after wasting too much time watching stupid television programs, I heard an audio tape with DeAngelo. He stated that if you could just spend the time you would normally spend in front of the television set, on a personal development program, imagine how much new stuff you would learn. At that time I thought that if I just knew the theory, behind things, I would have changed, so… I threw out my television! I actually liked the dramatic way of getting rid of my television, as I felt it was much more inspiring. From then on, I spent 1 - 2 hours everyday listening to audioprograms, reading pdf files on my computer, reading coaching books, studying NLP and so on.
THOMAS MY INTELIGENT MIRROR
I also got myself a “mirror”…. his name is Thomas, and he is one of the most inspiring guys I have ever met… I hope I can get him to write some stuff on this blog! By mirror, I mean a guy (it is actually a coaching expression, about how a country cannot see its own flaws… more about that in another post) who can tell you exactly what he thinks you are doing wrong, could do better and of course discussing a bunch of new things. This guy is probably the biggest reason for my motivation, changes, and in many other areas. I found Thomas about 6 months ago, on an online forum, discussion about the art of pick up…. We went out and did some applications of the theories we have learned! But I would like Thomas to write about this.
MY NEW LIFE
I am actually not really sure that my life did change… It probably has a bit but I am not sure. As DeAngelo states;”It is important to log your improvements, because improvement will delete its own tracks!” So that was actually the whole point about starting this blog. I still was not sure how I wanted to do this, because I want it to be useable for myself, as well as others! I believe that the blog is about the application of most of all the theory outthere (that Iam sofar aware off). The idea about Kasperlife is to define some goals in every aspect of my life, and work towards them using coaching, personal development theory, and motivational speakers audio and videos! I will make a list of my inspirations and a short introduction to those! Se it here (Link is not working yet ;))
I think it is of great importance that I am not where I want to be yet (and have had the epiphany that I propably will never as my goals constantly change) I have changed a bit during the last couple of months, but iam also very motivated to tell you about my improvement. Further to this I will have a dairy part which will give an impression about my daily life turning into KASPERLIFE. My dreamversion of my dreamlife.
So…
I need to define what I really want. I need some specific goals and objectives, so that Iam not just running around in circles with undefined goals. More about that in a later post!
Hope you enjoyed my “biography”… please let me know anything you think that is needed to improve this!
Kasper
