Hi everybody, sorry it has been a while, I have been flat out busy!

Saturday I went to a really interesting workshop lead by the just 21 year old Marlene Hörfarter. She is incredible… very inspiring for that young a girl!

The workshop was named something like “Take Life Into Your Own Hands!”, and gave me a really good point towards my personal change journey. The very fundamentals of such change is working on your goals. I say “working on” because you need to really define your goals. I have been a bit naive towards this the whole time. I have had hundreds of not very defined goals, one day working towards one, the other day working towards another. I have totally changed my head around these things. From now on I will work on ONE goal at the time, when I cannot work towards that goal anymore, I will start on the other. I have been thinking a bit about my goal of getting out of debt. This is a goal, that Iam working on, but I cannot do much more than I do now (well I could, but i have prioritized other things) So, I take out an amount of cash every sunday. This is all the money I spend one week at the time. My point is that this goal, I will be working on for a while, but I can work on other things meanwhile. I guess you could say that Iam latently working on this goal, which makes room for other goals, to be worked on!

So, the very first thing to do, is write down your goals… all of them… spend a couple of hours, writing down your goals, dont be too specific, just write it down, and throw out the ones you find irrelevant in the process. After a couple of hours, you have your goals, and you are ready to start working on those. the next thing we did, was working on our values. What are your values in life?

Make a list of 10 values… spend some time creating those! after doing this, you sort out 3 of the less important ones, then another 2 and another 2. You are now down to 3 values, that should define you the most. The real question here is this: “Do your values correspond with your goals?” think about it for a minute… In coaching often we are talking about goals, as ”end-goals” and ”means-to-an-end-goals”. End goals often correspond to your values, while means-to-an-end-goals are often goals, that actually hides another goal! Ill give you an example: Us guys are often talking about wanting a new cool car. This is almost never an “end-goal” but a means to an end. Because when we want this cool new car, we want that because of what it can give us; respect, status, chicks…. so… what we REALLY want is respect, status and chicks… often those are also means to an end goals, so you could ask the question; why do you want respect, status, and chicks…. It could be that you are depending on external sources of acceptance, and a REAL “End-Goal” could be that you want to be able to rely on your self for a feeling of acceptance. So, if your real goal is “An Internal Source of Acceptance”, how do you work towards this?

To be continued…